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#WinterABC Day 12: My Apparition Experience

November 28th 1981

Kibeho is a small village in Southwestern Rwanda. I and a number of other girls have spent a month or so in school and we study from Kibeho High School.

It’s lunch time, every one is struggling for food that they can’t see what is going on in the dining hall.

Alphonsine Mumureke is standing at the front of the dining hall, head lifted high and she seems to be talking to herself. Suddenly silence fills the hall people are starting to notice and some girls are making fun of her.One of the teachers on duty is called to act on what is happening. Some girls are scared, they are whispering about the new girl who seems to be possessed. A few minutes later she falls to the ground and is rushed to the school dispensary.

January 1982

We are fresh from the Christmas holiday and everyone is excited to be back. We are outside waiting for an address from our teacher and one of the girls move forward.

It’s Anathalie Mukamazimpaka just like Alphonsine she’s tilted her head up and she’s responding to a person we all can’t see.

She later told us the Virgin Mary appeared to her identifying herself as Nyina wa Jambo (Kinyarwanda for “Mother of the Word”). I remember Alphonsine said the same thing but no one believed her. They all thought it impossible and even accused them of being possessed by the devil.

I come from a devout Catholic family, yes I have my doubts as would any other human being. But how can two different people make up a story of something so special and divine. Anathalie’s apparitions emphasized endless prayer and expiation. Simply asking us to make amends for guilt or wrong doing.

I did not stay long enough in Kibeho High to witness Marie Claire Mukangango, who had initially bullied Alphonsine at school because of the visions. She also experienced apparitions which lasted from March 2 to September 15, 1982. The Virgin told Mukangango that people should pray the Chaplet of the Seven Sorrows to obtain the favor of repentance.

Many people interpreted these apparitions as visions foretelling the Rwandan genocide and the second Kibeho massacre. The same place the girls had their moment with the Virgin Mary is the same ground on which they slaughtered innocent souls.

Here is a site you can visit to further understand what these girls went through putting aside my story.

Thank you for reading, until next time.

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Proverbs In Vernacular

FUN FACT: My father is an Etesot and my mother is a Muganda. This makes me half and half but due to male dominance i’ll introduce myself as an Iteso. Luckily i got a Kiganda name, Suubi which means Hope.

Today i’ll share with you a couple of proverbs from both tribes some of which i just learned today. My grandmother all the way in Butebo must be disappointed. The children of my father’s household need to go back for lessons myself included.

1. Eyauni epejonon aijar

Translated as: The visitor brings life.

To mean: Its better to share with visitors because they add more blessings.

2. Agali awamu g’egaluma enyama

Translated as: Only the teeth that are joined will bite the meat.

To mean: When people are united, even the strongest enemy or the toughest challenge can be overcome.

3. Ebibe tebyala

Translated as (Loosely): Stolen things don’t yield much

To mean: There is no gain from stealing something that does not belong to you.

4. Nantabulirwa asaabala gwa bumbba

To mean: A person who doesn’t heed to advise is bound to fail.

5. Ekigya omanyi kinyagga bitono

To mean: If something comes your way and you had a clue it doesn’t break you down as much.

I need to visit both my grandmothers and go deeper into my roots. They are always telling us stories but we don’t go much into things like proverbs.

Despite that finding, i enjoyed doing the research for today’s topic.

I would also like to add that during my research someone I reached out to blatantly told me and I qoute “things to do with my tribe will take me no where”. Let that sink in (I still am), we need to reflect on how detached we are from our roots.

Blessed Week Lovely People.

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#WinterABC Day 10, Representing Brands

Over the years representing brands has been about reputable people standing in a positive light for major companies or businesses which increase their sales in the long run.

In my teen years I had my minutes of fame and I thought maybe I could represent these brands. The first one was when I got to take part in a survey for a radio station called XFM. We were categorized according to age and I was the youngest in the room. I saw that as my selling point and assumed I’d automatically make the cut only because people my age were into hip radio stations but to my dismay.

The second minute of fame was after I took part in an essay writing competition with The Straight Talk Foundation. They were looking for representatives in high school and as you can tell, I took part in that too. I thought it was a long shot until I received a branded envelope from The Straight Talk offices. Receiving branded envelopes was such a big deal in school. They made you look important.

Unfortunately I didn’t make the cut and I was utterly disappointed. Before I gave up, I applied for another opportunity to represent a newspaper column that was new at the time. This one hurt the most because I didn’t even get a “we regret to inform you” letter or email.

Looking back, it feels like I was desperate to be somebody. I hated all these companies for not giving me a chance. I wanted to be the face of something and I was denied the opportunity every time I tried.

Writing about today’s topic made me realize branding is about an emotional connection. Yes, I wanted to represent said companies but my sight was not on the bigger picture at the time. I was looking at it from the perspective of fame and all the nice things that come with it.

Why emotional connection? If you love something you’ll go out of your way to do the very best just to deliver outstanding results. Like I mentioned earlier, that was not really my motive.

The brands I appreciate are Pearls For Her, Afrobloggers, 4040 (40 days over smiles) and The Endo Hub.

These brands are well represented and me being part of their community one way or the other is representation enough for me. They’ve rather inspired me to build my own brand which only I can best represent.

What we experience is our own concept of things. That is why no two people see quite the same world, and why, in many cases, different people see such different worlds. To put it another way, we make our own world by the way in which we think; for we really do live in a world of our own thoughts.

Emmet Fox

In conclusion I admire so many brands and yes once in a while I’ll dream of what it would be like representing them. On the other hand, I’m interested in building a personal brand as everyone has two eyes but no one has the same view.

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Of Social Media Accounts I Love and Why

Today’s topic is interesting. It’s like a step further getting to know something about all the amazing bloggers I’ve met thus far.

Here are four of other amazing accounts that I follow on the socials.

Pearls For Her (PFH)

I love entrepreneurship and being a career woman. PFH is an amazing platform that was created to help women be both and enjoy every second it. It’s mostly beneficial to already existing businesses but I’d recommend it to anyone. Through their programs and trainings I have learned and I’m still learning. Anxiously waiting to apply my skills. It’s simply two amazing ladies helping other women flourish. Check them out!! They are Ugandan.

Crystal Newman

I listened to her all the years she was on Sanyu FM, my favorite show was a Saturday one where she invited celebrities to share their stories. She left radio not so long ago but came back with a YouTube channel and maintained her concept. It’s no longer about celebrities though but rather people who have stories worth sharing and been judged differently by society. *I’m a very good listener hence I love stories* I also follow her on Instagram, she’s such a foodie and always shares amazing recipes. *I’m a foodie too* Check out her pages. She’s also from my motherland.

Transformation Church/ Michael Todd

The channel and man of God behind Relationship Goals. The story about these two is quite long. All I can say is I’m grateful that I stumbled on the channel. Plus I feel like other people have done the account justice talking about it today.

Afrobloggers

The reason I’m here so exhausted but still sharing this list with you. Afrobloggers is an account I followed shortly after I resumed blogging. They are so welcoming and extremely devoted to uplifting African writers. Through them and this challenge I’ve met amazing bloggers with great talent. If you aren’t following them yet, what are you waiting for honestly?

They are so many accounts I could possibly share but for now that’s all. Make sure to check them out or recommend to people you think would love them.

Sending love to you all. Continue to be safe and cautious during these difficult times

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#WinterABC Day 8

I write this sitted in a taxi exactly twelve minutes to curfew time. A bit excited to see what happens if I’m not home by 7pm as the traffic was beyond my control.

I almost didn’t get time to write. The challenge has to continue and I thought what better time to write than this rush hour confusion I got myself into. Anyway getting into today’s topic.

Here are a few and short pointers I think all African content creators can stay away from in this blogging, vlogging and influencing world.

  • Don’t Give Up

Nothing ever comes easy so keep trying but don’t fail to try. Beginnings are pretty hard but with the passion and charisma, things eventually get going. So do not give up.

  • Don’t create purely for fame

Give the people what they need and the fame or popularity will come easily to you. The content and how it’s delivered will draw the fame. Do your part consistently with purpose and allow your followers to celebrate you. Hard work always pays off.

  • Don’t try to cover all topics

Identify your niche and engage to understand it better. Base your content on your niche and be creative in a satisfactory manner. There’s a niche for everyone of us. All it takes is continuous research and the internet to get a hold of it.

Love and light esteemed readers.

Update: Got home at exactly 7:30pm. The police officers didn’t question me. It is important that I’m home and safe. (Thank God)

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5 Bloggers in My Country

I didn’t want this day to reach because i’m somewhat new to the blogging community of my country. That also made me realize i’m not reaching out enough to get to know people in the blogging space but that’s why i joined the WinterABC challenge. (Social media is important after all!!)

There are so many talented bloggers in Uganda. I’d come across some of their pages before the challenge and others along this journey. Everyone of them has a unique style of writing that will captivate you. I honestly feel like a rookie when i read their blogs.

Without further ado, let me share with you my 5 bloggers in Uganda and make sure to check out their blogs if you haven’t already. Follow them as well to keep up with amazing stories.

Khanani Daniella

She is an amazing writer, came across her page when The Paul Coelho liked and appreciated her book review on his book. I was amazed by her pointers too, i intend to get the book too. Then throughout the challenge, she’ll make sure to let you know what she’s learned from your post. I loved her Becoming piece. She’s got a good thing going and i’d like for you to follow her too.

Benjamin Watch

He has a passion for blogging which you can tell through his writing. He’s always sharing bloggers pieces to the world. This is very encouraging and it feels good to know that your stories are appreciated by people you’ve never met but connect with through words.

Katasi E. Kironde

I got to know about her through the WinterABC challenge. Her Becoming story was amazing too and it prompted me to check all her other stories. She has The Lockdown Chronicles series, haven’t finished all the stories but i recommend.

Vocalized Thoughts

Now i came to know Ms Abigaba through this challenge after she liked one of my posts. Went to her blog and read some of her work before the challenge. One thing caught my eye, her review on the The Defining Decade and that was enough for me to subscribe. Her writing style is unique and i like it.

Justified Ecstasy

The lady behind it is Patsy Mugabi. Anything you want to know about personal finance, natural hair and lifestyle she has got you. She also has a page on Femme Money Moves which is basically personal finance for the average twenty something female. Check out her blog and find out more.

I’ve just realized all four of the five are female. Girl bosses out here doing the most!! The future is surely female. They are so many amazing bloggers and i continue to learn from them.

To telling more stories, being heard, sharing others and fighting the good fight with WORDS!!

Mpaka wakati ujao (Until next time……. *Inspired by Daniella* )

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Lessons on Social Media

Social media for most people is a space to participate in social networking but it has rapidly grown into a platform for content creators to share and engage their specific users. Specific because every social media platform has its own niche and it’s the same trend the creatives making the most of social media have taken.

Social media platforms are quite a number and I know some people could have an account on each one. As for me, I only have those that I need. My anxiety can blow out of proportion and the last thing I want is to be dealing with social media induced anxiety. That is not my cup of tea and I don’t wish it on anybody.

We are going to get into four of the many lessons I’ve learned from social media as today’s topic suggests on the 6th day of the WinterABC challenge.

Social media and authenticity walk hand in hand. It’s possibly the same reason we follow the people we are currently following on the different platforms. Do you think it’s possible to detect the authenticity of a person or a business just by looking at their page? Whatever your answer was, it’s important to note that authenticity is key. Many go the extra mile to sell lies and it is very disappointing when there is delivery of a service for money. Always be on the lookout.

The social media world has opened my eyes to social media marketing. In the near future many people will be professional digital marketers. The plan was to say there will no longer be social media influencers but I’ve noticed the trick businesses use to grow their customer base. They look for people with a big following to market their services. I like the idea of involving people otherwise they’d just pay Google to do the hard work.  Hence you’d see those annoying pop up ads with too many graphics which we all hate and never pick interest in what they have to offer.

Although when there’s a face to it you become curious, swipe up or down and that’s how you end up wasting two hours of your day on social media.

This brings me to another lesson I’ve learned on social media. Don’t give away too much, keep something for and to yourself. Celebrities look like they give way too much information and Wikipedia does them no justice. You’d be surprised at how much they keep to themselves. They give the people what they want not need.

Our generation is already obsessed with social media as is but you don’t want to add social media stalkers to your list of things to worry about.  An MTV show called Catfish taught me that lesson. It’s amazing the lengths people go through. Remember to be safe and treasure your privacy.

Lastly social media has also taught me the necessity of showing up. Businesses or brands thrive better when they put themselves out there. We always come across amazing pages but we never know the people behind them. Over time, brands, business owners and others are starting to show up and this opens up more opportunities which are a result of networking.

Content is the fire, social media is the gasoline.

-Ryan Kohn

Social media is mostly good and bad when the freedom it offers is misused.  Make the most of the opportunities it has to offer but remember to use it wisely. Show up and own your content if the space is for you to do business and more. I recommend you to do a social media cleanse once in a while, too much of anything has never been good.

Wishing you all a blessed week and may it be filled with purpose driven activities.

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My Class of 2020

It’s a Friday!!! *imaginary dance* Pardon me but it’s been a long week and I don’t think we get the same excitement for Fridays like we did before Covid-19.

How is your mental state, relationship with God and your finances? It’s a new month and I encourage you to always do a routine checkup.

So I don’t know if you’ve heard but African bloggers are busy killing it in an amazing challenge called WinterABC. The stories are so amazing and I’m loving every one of them, for some I can relate one way or the other. Same topic, different beautiful stories to read and share. Don’t say I didn’t tell you. I’m proud to be a part of the journey too, enjoying every minute of it. *Tap on the shoulder for taking chances*

Today I get to be your teacher and I’m excited to impart some of my knowledge. Teachers are heroes because dealing with different characters in a class of hundreds is a special task of its on. (Send them air hugs)

Have you ever had an honest conversation with friends, parents, work colleagues or strangers about life in their 20s? Have you heard or read the phrase “30 is not the new 20”? Assuming you paused and answered each question let me start our class.

Becoming a young adult is one thing I admired as a child but only for the good stuff, I mean an amazing 9 to 5, cute apartment, occasional meet ups with the girls , flourishing relationship with God and my man….you name it, I thought it.  The minute I got to adulthood I wanted out because whatever was happening is not what I signed up for.

This bring us to lesson uno (one in Spanish) Forgetting about identity crisis and getting identity capital: These are just fancy terms but the point here is finding something that defines who you are or might want to be or better yet finding out what you don’t want to be. If you’ve been struggling to find your purpose in life or trying to understand who you are and have failed miserably….have you considered finding out what does not work for you be it at work, in your business, friend and relationships and other aspects of your life. Your identity is from being more self-aware, letting go of personal or family norms, holding onto principles that vibe with you and letting go of others. What better time to do that than in your 20s?

Don’t get me wrong, you can do this at any time of your life but if you are just starting out on this roller-coaster called Y/A (Young adult) I believe you have the will power to know who you are and use that to your advantage. So write that list cross whatever shouldn’t be on it and get closer to your true self. Identity crisis is not knowing who you want to be or simply not having your life together and beating yourself up about it. Paul Angone calls finding out what we don’t want to do a game of Emerging Adult Elimination.

Lesson dos (two) resonates with each one us, don’t deny it. It’s normal but today i’d like for us to stop it or slowly grow out of it.

Comparing yourself to others. Continuous comparison produces unwanted feelings which lead to depression, anxiety and jealousy which are uncalled for. A behavior most common in your twenties and earlier years. Your 20s are a time to flourish with all the fresh creativity, energy and peace. As should be with all your years on earth.

Here are few of numerous ways you could cure comparison.

Cut back on TV and the internet (Linda you must be joking) No, i’m not, I know we have to stay informed but I mean stay away from the pages, channels or sites that make your mind race to places that will kill your track progress.

Celebrate what you do because nobody will do it better for you. Whether it’s big or small, celebrate and stop obsessing about everything you don’t do. It’s okay to be inspired by others but don’t let their light dim yours, I love to believe different personalities is what makes the world interesting. *Imagine we were all the same*

I’d also like to add that being intentional helps with curing comparison. Once you know how meaningful life is you’ll be selective with your time and guard it from the time thief comparison is.

I’m obsessed with making the most of our 20s because so many people will tell you how you have your whole life ahead of you. What about we forget that and say “My point of power is in the present moment”. Be it your studies, work, relationships, finances, lifestyle, etc. The time we waste sulking over what should have been can be used to improve what is already existing. Stop comparing yourself to others and start pursuing what is meaningful to you.

Thank you for coming to my class and I hope we can have another session together.

What teacher would I be if I didn’t leave you with homework? Are you in your 20s, or are you in your 30s and would like to mentor young adults, or do you love to read regardless of age?

I recommend you read 101 Secrets for Your Twenties by Paul Angone and The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter- and How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay. This class couldn’t have happened if I hadn’t stumbled on those amazing books. So read them and share your findings with the world. Meg Jay has a Ted talk that can also be helpful. The good teacher added a direct link to the Ted talk. Tap her name above and jump right into it

That’s all folks, love and light. Have a lovely weekend.

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Becoming Linda Stella

Akello Linda Stella was born on a beautiful Sunday night on 4th February in the mid 90s. She is the first child in a family of three children, born and raised in Entebbe by wonderful parents. For her nursery and lower primary, she attended Entebbe Christian School for which she credits her Christian foundation. Her parents in a bid to toughen her took her to St. Agnes Girl’s Catholic Primary Boarding School Naggalama where she completed her primary education. At Trinity College Nabbingo she started and completed her secondary school journey. With a keen interest in entrepreneurship and business management she joined Makerere University Business School where she graduated with a Bachelor of Business Administration.

Linda is an introvert a trait got from her father and is also soft spoken. She is opinionated and loves to fight strongly in ideas she believes in. She is attracted by the idea of egalitarianism because she believes that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the heart of tyrants. Simplicity is her language. She loves to have warm and honest conversations, use sensitive language and speak in human terms rather than logic and facts.

Her father once asked her if she’d considered doing comedy because half the time she’s either laughing or smiling. The people she met over the years wondered if she ever got angry. Linda on the other hand loves to say to herself, exist to be happy, not to impress and simply love God and love people.

She believes one of her greatest achievement was turning down an amazing student leadership role for which she was unopposed. Unfortunately she gave up this opportunity because it required her to change who she was and her beliefs. She loved a quote Susan Cain wrote in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

The trick for introverts is to honor their styles instead of allowing themselves to be swept up by prevailing norms

– Susan Cain

Her story continues to unfold and she is equally excited to see where it leads. She encourages people to learn and understand their personality traits. When you know thyself and embrace who you are with all your quirks you can figure out how to best work with your personality. With that school of thought she continues to explore life and what it has to offer.

Not Part of the Bio: Beautiful people of the world, i hope you are well and happy. Writing this bio has been hard, going to write one every month until i get it right. It’s taken me approximately 3 hours to finish and i’m still not sure. *the impostor is trying me* Anyways hope you enjoyed it. Till tomorrow, cheers!!

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The Local g’s Favorites

Today is different because i get to discuss food and talking about it is every foodies favorite past time. My little sister calls me a local g because i’m very patriotic when it comes to the food and music. This local has many foods on her list but let’s get into the top two:

  • Sweet potatoes and Groundnut Paste with Dried Tilapia: Did you salivate reading that because i did…kinda. Let me put it out there that half the people i know hate sweet potatoes because of the sweetness. I love them because sweet and savory equals happiness for me. That’s a meal i can have and not eat the rest of the day. Also i love that sweet potatoes can be baked, make amazing fries even a pie. Need i say more really!!! Big shout out to my amazing Grandma *also my namesake* she grows the best potatoes I’ve eaten and the farmers in Northern Uganda. (You’re welcome)
These are the best particularly those with orange flesh. Yum!!
  • Kalo and Ggobe: This is my staple food (do people still say that) kalo is a mixture of cassava and millet flour, that’s the mix i like other people would disagree but to each their own. You must be thinking that’s a tonne of carbs but once in a while isn’t bad at all. Ggobe is a local name but its a combination of okra and greens whose name i know not in English. *sorry Grandma* Those two go well together and they are best eaten with a natural fork read fingers. I like to add peanut butter for an even better taste.
The internet equivalent of Ggobe

I’m thankful for having easy access to locally grown food. Food tastes different when it is fresh not forgetting the meats and fish too. Don’t forget to thank the vendors in the market and the farmers too for putting in the work. (If you know any)

That’s all folks, until tomorrow!!